Snowed In!

Ok, I wasn't really snowed in (the joys of living in the city) but I was stuck in the house for several more hours this weekend. It's been a couple of weeks since I updated, mostly because I've been INSANELY busy but also because not much has happened.

JB Cop and I have exchanged many an email and even talked on the phone for a long time but have yet to meet in person. We're Facebook friends now, which I usually don't allow until I meet someone, but I was DYING to know what he looks like. He's cute - and quite a big/tall guy. With his crazy police academy schedule and my show schedule we just haven't made it work. It concerns me a little as we go into the holidays as I know from experience that it's hard to maintain any sort of connection simply over email. Maybe over the holidays since we'll both be in town.

Later, gators!

Yikes!

Greetings from a snowy and slushy DC. Of course, per usual, everyone FREAKS OUT over a little bit of snow. I am glad I'm in for the night.

Finally got a phone call from D - I had just written him off (isn't that how it always works?). I'll let him sweat it out - call him tomorrow, probably. I can't meet next week, though, because I have tech (hell) week, so I hope that doesn't discourage him.

Just got a closed notice from a guy on eHarmony. The reason was that "the difference in our ages was too great". His age? 39. I am going to be 32 in a matter of weeks - that just made me laugh out loud. Whatever, dude.

Also got an email from a guy on Chemistry. I was kind of iffy about him from the beginning but here's a bit of his email - I just don't think it's going to work out.

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Subject: WOOT...you passed.

"Eerrr....what I mean to say is that I inputted your answers into algorithm that rotates a 2 dimensional object in 4D to determine the area under the curve (don’t laugh, it’s an actual class I took back in college for my Aerospace Engineering degree…sadly the only thing I remember from Differential Equations is that …..and that it should have really been called difficult equations instead).

And you nailed the Answer…of course the real issue is “what is the question”? Answer: What do you get when you multiply 6 by 9! Hehe doesn’t even make sense…but that is the point…it’s not the answer or even the question…but the journey that matters (more special when shared!)

I love Sci Fi and wish I had the time…(more if only I would make the time) to read more, so I tend to just watch a lot of Sci Fi TV, Movies, and Anime to get my regular fix. What type of books do you read?
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Yeeeeeahhhh.

On another hilarious note, Hils (one of my BFFs) managed to set me up with a guy who lives in my building. Apparently she got his email for me - he's 26 (jailbait!) and a cop in training. At least that would be a convienient date, right? More on that once I get the details. Hell, I'd settle for a little making out, especially if he's super adorable jailbait (and let's be honest - even if he's average!).

Stay dry and warm!

Happy Almost Holidays!

Hello to my three readers! A little radio silence, due in part to an ever-growing rehearsal schedule (shameless plug: check out my next two shows at http://www.landlesstheatrecompany.org), the holidays, and not a lot of activity on the online dating front. Here are some updates/thoughts:

1. I've been emailing with D for several weeks now. He's older (40) and because I'm trying very hard to broaden my horizons, I figured I would expand my acceptable age. I tend to date my age or below. I love the jailbait! Anyway, he seems to have a good job, live in DC and does photography for a hobby. The problem is that between our schedules and then the holiday, we haven't even talked on the phone yet. I hate these online things that go on forever without a meeting - I like it quick and dirty so that we can decide if we are interested in going further without any extra back and forth. So, hopefully we can connect soon.

2. I just got matched with someone on eHarmony that is from Brambleton, VA. Where is that, you ask? Well, I had to Google Map it - it's near NORFOLK. That is certainly not within my 30-mile radius that I specified. Also, within this recent batch of matches, THREE of them had children. I'm not sure if the pickings are slim, but that is also another FAIL on the part of eH.

3. I'm about to do a first - close someone who I've almost made it through the laborious communcation process. His answers to my short answer questions really indicate someone who is depressed. He called himself a spinster AND a recluse in three sentences. Those are some red flags to me. Or, at the very least, someone who is not for me - I don't deal well with the self-deprecating folk. Plus, he lives fairly far away.

That's about it for now. Let's hope I can eek out a date in December. Laters!

Gracias!

Thanks to everyone for the feedback - both positive and constructive. I've been told that my voice may be a little too cynical, and well, that's probably right. To paraphrase Charlotte from SATC, "I've been dating now for 16+ years and I'm tired. Where is he?" Though, I promise to keep it as lighthearted as possible - without sacrificing my biting wit (ha ha).

Don't be shy about commenting also - actresses like me like to feel validated. :)

I PROMISE a date story tonight!

"Currently pursuing another relationship"

So, I promise to get to my date stories - but first I have to ask this question. If you see a guy online and he meets all of the criteria below - but his reason to close you is because he's "currently pursuring another relationship", I call shenanigans. I might even call bullshit. If you're pursing a relationship, why are you on this damn online dating website anyway? I mean if it's serious enough that you are rejecting women, maybe you shouldn't be getting matched/trolling in the first place. Am I right? Thoughts?

The Dissection of a Profile

I don't think I come across great online. I mean I like to think I'm pretty funny in person (and hopefully in print!) and I just think I'm trying too hard in my profile. Whatever. It's just like auditions or interviews - I'm much better in person. It's just getting to that point that seems to be an issue.

For those of you not familiar with online dating - here's a quick rundown about how it works for me.

First thing I notice when I get matched is where someone lives. I don't have a car, so people who live in Reston or Gaithersburg may be looked at after someone who lives in DC proper or Arlington/Bethesda etc. Also, I get a ton of matches from people who live near Baltimore or down towards Woodbridge. That is geographically undesirable for me. I've heard it all - don't email me. I realize that this cuts out a lot of people, but I like to date closer to where I live.

The next thing, I notice, of course are the photos. If there are no photos posted, that guy immediately gets the boot. Sorry dudes - it's 2009. Pictures are no longer an option when you are online dating - they are a requirement. I realize that photos are not a very good judge of how someone actually looks in person but you can get a general gist.

Then I read their profile. At this point, I'm looking for someone who is witty, maybe a little funny and clearly doesn't take themselves to seriously. Also - I'm looking at their interests/hobbies as well. If it's a guy who runs triathalons and is looking for someone to share that hobby with - well, that's not my lazy ass. I'll look at their job as well - though that matters less to me. They just need to be gainfully employed.

Other things I look for are kids (also an automatic dealbreaker for me), height (not usually that picky, but they have to be taller than me - 5'6"+, you would be surprised at how short some people are) whether they have pets and anything they might list.

Generally, I find that I'm the intiator for contact. This used to bother me a lot more - but I've stopped caring. I have a list of people and I like to weed them out one way or another. Also, if someone doesn't respond either positively or negatively within a matter of time, I probably wouldn't have been interested in them in the long run. I like men of action. :)

Then the laborious process of questions and relationship pro/cons start - and finally, if it all works out you progress to email and then hopefully a face-to-face meeting. And the first email, first phone call and first face-to-face meeting is a whole OTHER can of worms, or at the very least - another post.

Next post: my first date after the post-boyfriend hiatus.

9 1/2 Months

No, I'm not starring in a scandalous film with Mickey Roarke nor having a baby (I'm not sure which one would be worse at this point...) - but that's about the time I've been back in the dating scene. After my Rat Bastard of An Ex-Boyfriend (Rat Bastard or just RB, because I'm lazy) dumped my ass in what I think was the crappiest way possible (more about that in later posts), I took some time to re-focus (read: get back to the gym and stop wallowing) and figured I was ready about 9 months or so ago.

I have a lifetime subscription to the online dating sight Chemistry (Match.com's version of eHarmony). No that's not a typo - lifetime subscription. I have a sort of weird habit to sign up for things - I seriously have a million shopping club cards - so I signed up for Chemistry for free right when it first started. Fast forward a few months when I met RB - I called the company to cancel my account. This is when I discovered that because I had signed up in the first few weeks of the site, I was now grandfathered in for LIFE. I seriously hope I'm not online dating when I'm 60 - but at least I know that I won't have to use my social security check to pay for it.

I also just rejoined eHarmony. They were having a deal and (see above), I'm a sucker for a deal. So I think the combination of the two sites will give me enough of a dating pool to at least entertain my 5 followers with funny stories.

I also haven't lost the hope that I may meet someone organically (i.e. not online) - though I haven't been lucky in that arena for a while.

We'll see - glad to have you along for the ride!

Ugh. Dating.

Third time's a charm, right? This is the third blog I've started and while blogs seem to be a little passe these days, I'm hoping to keep this one going. I have a talent for getting really into something and then getting bored really quick.

Which, good segue - that's kind of the MO in my dating history. I'm not sure if it's lack of suitors, lack of interest, lack of patience or a combination of all three, but I hate dating. I'd rather just magically be transported to the fun relationship (after the awkardness of the first few dates, the getting to know you period but still in the "making out is fun" phase).

Since that will never happen - here I am. Dating. I hope you enjoy my stories - because dating is just like going on a bunch of really tedious job interviews, but with funnier results.